Since I have to sit and think awhile for the password to my account … I deem it overdue for an entry.
My oldest has been out of school for a few weeks and I can tell what little free time I had is now eaten up in taking care of him. It has been exhausting to me especially in navigating with tender heart. I have made flash cards for “transitions” and at first it seemed futile. But now things are going somewhat more smoothly and a lot less frustration. Realizing I need a larger board for all the “new” ones we have been coming up with. Seems my thermal laminator’s purchase was well worth the $$. Last night I started using Melatonin before bed and it’s kept him from getting up in the middle of the night turning on his light. And Gammy bought him a weighted blanket. With more tools in our arsenal it’s getting easier, but two days ago he was melting down ALL DAY and took I could not to want to beat the child. Needless to say he spent a lot of time in his room so mommy could cool off. Days like that I feel like a horrible mom for reacting that way, but I do know it’s only human and quite normal.
Intimacy, well… I was a tigress for a while. Which makes me laugh….b/c I thought…so this what I’m supposed to be feeling in a marriage. DH decided to tell me he was in mood after a week of it not happening (due to various schedules and kid things going on) and I felt like I was slapped in the face with insensitivity. It was the day when the eldest had so many melt downs and had told DH of them. I was so spent that it just really got to me….and I didn’t expect it. Today, I had to openly admit to dh that I’m not ready for him to tell me that….and I know being honest is the quickest way to healing, but I felt like hypocrite saying it. The whole condemnation in my head of being a bad wife. Ever since then I have had this “don’t touch me” attitude that I’m having a hard time shaking…b/c I think he expects sex. And…Tessa can’t go there right now without bursting into tears. Someday, I’ll understand this healing process. “ But is not today.” (Think LOTR)
I am looking forward to July, b/c my besty-friend is coming to see me. Eldest starts his Summer School geared specifically for ASD students (thus the testing will start). It is a humorous thought to think I was so heart sick over him going to school at 2 ½ years old….and now I am excited for him to go back b/c of the progress that was made.
FYI, I was referred to this website called “MyAutismTeam.com” and it is a fabulous place for support and information. I have to give it kudos, b/c it’s narrowed searches down to what actually is factual and helpful. Google is an awful place to try and search for stuff with this subject. Too overwhelming!
Well that’s all I have tonight. God Bless.